As I sat bewildered and amused, I knew it was a story that I had to be save for her wedding reception. Next to me, my older daughter was sobbing inconsolably, "why does it all have to end this way?"
Rewind ten minutes. It was not a conversation that was supposed to go like this.
You see, my dad is absolutely fascinated by the night sky. I thought I'd play the role of a good son and father, by testing whether talking about space would ignite my daughter's interest in the subject. Perhaps, next time they met, they could obsess over a shared interest.
Me: Do you know the name of our galaxy, M.?
M.: Of course, the Milky Way!
Me: Good! They teach you good stuff in school. Now, harder question; do you know which galaxy is right next to ours?
M.: No, which is it, Baba?
Me: Andromeda. And I bet you haven't heard this. Billions of years later, Andromeda and the Milky Way are going to smash into each other. It is going to be spectacular!
M.: (troubled) Can't we do anything to stop it?
I cracked open a laptop, and fired up a browser.
Me: Look this is Tallahassee. This is Florida. This is the Earth. This is the solar system (zooming out each time). This is the Milky Way, and this is Andromeda. We are too tiny to do anything meaningful.
M.: (definitely worried) What does that mean? Does it mean we all die?
Me: (scoffing) Oh, don't worry about that. This is going to happen after BILLIONS of years. We will all be dead long before that. In fact, perhaps the Earth will be gone before that.
M.: What do you mean, Baba?
Me: You know how the sun is a star, right? Like all stars, it shines by burning gas. It has tons of gas, kinda like Baba's tummy. But once it runs out of most of that gas, it might expand to about 3 times its size, and gobble up Mercury, Venus, and probably Earth.
I noticed tears streaming down her cheeks. I had to console her. And I had do it fast.
Me: But don't worry. Dont' worry! This is not going to happen for BILLIONS of years more. We will all be gone by then.
M.: (now sobbing inconsolably) why does it all have to end this way?
After a few minutes, she regained her composure. I was debating whether it would be tone-deaf to talk about the real things to be scared of, like global warming, or pandemics, or..., when she interrupted me with a plea.
"Baba, can we please not talk about space, anymore?"
Rewind ten minutes. It was not a conversation that was supposed to go like this.
You see, my dad is absolutely fascinated by the night sky. I thought I'd play the role of a good son and father, by testing whether talking about space would ignite my daughter's interest in the subject. Perhaps, next time they met, they could obsess over a shared interest.
Me: Do you know the name of our galaxy, M.?
M.: Of course, the Milky Way!
Me: Good! They teach you good stuff in school. Now, harder question; do you know which galaxy is right next to ours?
M.: No, which is it, Baba?
Me: Andromeda. And I bet you haven't heard this. Billions of years later, Andromeda and the Milky Way are going to smash into each other. It is going to be spectacular!
M.: (troubled) Can't we do anything to stop it?
I cracked open a laptop, and fired up a browser.
Me: Look this is Tallahassee. This is Florida. This is the Earth. This is the solar system (zooming out each time). This is the Milky Way, and this is Andromeda. We are too tiny to do anything meaningful.
M.: (definitely worried) What does that mean? Does it mean we all die?
Me: (scoffing) Oh, don't worry about that. This is going to happen after BILLIONS of years. We will all be dead long before that. In fact, perhaps the Earth will be gone before that.
M.: What do you mean, Baba?
Me: You know how the sun is a star, right? Like all stars, it shines by burning gas. It has tons of gas, kinda like Baba's tummy. But once it runs out of most of that gas, it might expand to about 3 times its size, and gobble up Mercury, Venus, and probably Earth.
I noticed tears streaming down her cheeks. I had to console her. And I had do it fast.
Me: But don't worry. Dont' worry! This is not going to happen for BILLIONS of years more. We will all be gone by then.
M.: (now sobbing inconsolably) why does it all have to end this way?
After a few minutes, she regained her composure. I was debating whether it would be tone-deaf to talk about the real things to be scared of, like global warming, or pandemics, or..., when she interrupted me with a plea.
"Baba, can we please not talk about space, anymore?"
as a dad i have some degree of success on similar topoics with few different exit strategies -
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b. Eternal hope...morph this conversation in space travel and colonization of planets or building huge space ships where we can all live comfortably. end of galaxy isn't end of mankind
c. Go full out and embrace fantastic - in this case, wouldn't it be cool to have few different planets near our moon so we can take a vacation?
cool post though...
Thanks for the suggestions, Dhruv! You know (a) is being disingenuous. (b) is a great idea!
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